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    Jessica Tiffin
    I know my 14 year old son is incorrigible, however it is because he has a recorded learning disability. His jr. high school is leaning towards expolsion, I am opposed to it of course. My son has missed eighteen days of school this year from ditching. He claims he is bored. What should I do? I don't want to give up on my son or make him feel unwanted, I can do only so much now because the law is now involved. Help me please.
    11/19/2014 3:17 am Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Dear Jessica: Your son needs to realize the serious consequences of his boredom. Perhaps the school principal, counselor and/or other administrators could meet with you (and your son) to discuss the situation and figure out what needs to be done. Since your son has a learning disability, then there should be an IEP (individualized education plan) in place. If not, then this should be discussed immediately with the school. Good luck to you and your son.
    11/19/2014 7:47 am
    Anonymous
    After exhausting all avenue's I know with no end to the bullying my 6th grade daughter suffers daily I guess my question would be what if any legal rights and or avenues are there for me as a parent? what can I do legally to try and get it stopped?
    11/5/2014 11:38 pm Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    We suggest you speak with the school principal first and then, if you're not satisfied with the results, contact the school district superintendent's office. You can also contact the police with the specifics regarding the bullying and they may take action. You can also talk with a local lawyer who practices education or school law for advice as to your options. There are also helpful websites with tips for parents in bullying situations: www.thatsnotcool.com www.pacerteensagainstbullying.org www.wiredsafety.com Good luck - (This is information only - not legal advice).
    11/6/2014 1:36 pm
    Robin
    Robin
    I'm having issues with my son's middle school. The school is failing to keep my son safe from a bully, has had teachers not follow there own school handbook, district policy, a teacher has backed herself into a corner lying about a faulty citation given to my son and the vice principle intimidation tactics on my child and then called him a thief when he didn't steal anything. A substitute teacher violated a doctor's note not letting my child use the restroom and making him sit on the floor in class. This are just a few issues I'm dealing with. Sadly I cannot afford a lawyer to help me amend the wrongs made at the middle school. At this point I have pulled my son from school and have been attempting to get the district superintendent to help resolve the issues. But the district is not answering my questions touring me from one person to another and refusing to meet with me off the grounds of the middle school.
    11/2/2014 12:32 pm Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Dear Robin: In addressing the issues with the school and school district, you may need the help of a lawyer familiar with school/education law. Some lawyers offer their services on a sliding scale based on your financial situation. Others may consider taking your case on a free (pro bono) basis. Ask about these options if you call. Take a look at our Resource Directory for professionals in your area: www.askthejudge.info/directory Good luck.
    11/3/2014 10:24 am
  • Shelley
    Shelley
    I have a 22 year old son who lives in a separate house on the same property as I do. Lately he's started making my life miserable. Yesterday he yelled obscenities at me outside with the neighbors listening for over 30 minutes. Last night he cut the spark plug wires on my friends motorcycle because he was still mad. Then at 4:30 this morning I heard him outside shooting his shotgun and yelling the F word. I opened the door and said, "Who are you yelling at?" He said, "You! Eff you!" And more cussing and 2 more gunshots. 4:30 am! Today he says he isn't accountable for what he did to the motorcycle and says,"That's just the beginning." What are my legal options in a case like this? Thanks foodie your help.
    9/28/2014 10:33 am Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Dear Shelley: Since your son is now an adult, you are no longer legally responsible for him. Therefore, you can kick him out of the house if you are the property owner and believe that this is what he needs to get his act together. Otherwise, you could call the police when he violates the law in any way (damaging your friend's motorcycle, shooting the gun, etc.). Finally, if you have not yet tried, perhaps a calm, straight forward heart to heart with him, may result in some awareness as to how his behavior affects you. Good luck. (Check our Resource Directory for more help and resources in your area. This is information only – not legal advice.)
    9/28/2014 8:54 pm
    Melanie
    Melanie
    My son is 17 years old and was arrested at school with marijuana. He is a great student who made a VERY poor decision. Since his arrest I have randomly preformed my own at home drug tests, which he has passed them all. I unfortunately could not afford a lawyer and his court appointed lawyer stated he had good chances at being placed on Diversion. Needless to say after we completed ALL the pre-trial diversion paperwork, our "so called" attorney continously showed up to court forgetting paperwork, late (each and every time) and at my son's last court appearance stated he didn't qualify for diversion. My son is an honor roll student, never been in trouble, prior to this incident, and had letters of recomdation from not only family friends but school professionals as well. I am confused as to why he is now on deffered adjudification, and was denied diversion. Is there anything we can do at this point to fight this decision? If not, what is the difference between defered adjudification and just paying the fine for his offense and being done with this HORRIBLE sistuation altogether. I am in no way condoning my sons poor choices, but on everything we researched he met all the qualifications for diversion. Please help! he wants to go to A&M and pursue a career in Petroleum Engineering and I don't want a decision he made as a "stupid child" to affect his Adult choices.
    9/4/2014 8:21 pm Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Dear Melanie: We suggest you ask his lawyer why he's not eligible for diversion. The programs differ from state to state and "deferred adjudication" may have the same effect as diversion. If unsuccessful or unsatisfied with the explanation offered, ask to speak with the attorney's supervisor. Good luck.
    9/5/2014 8:28 am
    Anonymous
    My adopted daughter has been in therapy for the last 8 year about her sexually problems she always doing inappropriate thing around her brother and sister like pouring water down her breast in front of the 14 and 13 year old saying she can do what she wants its her body I can not leave her at home alone there is always a problem when i come back. She is 16 years old and the other ones are younger and I can not work because of her. She has NO respect for authority she told the therapist that she does 100% what she suppose to do at school and 0% at home. She does so much i really don't know what to do
    7/20/2014 6:21 pm Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Have you discussed her behavior with her therapist? He or she may have some suggestions. She may benefit from medication but that's a doctor's call. If she is breaking any laws, you could speak with a juvenile probation officer for suggestions about getting her back on track. Good luck.
    7/21/2014 11:12 am
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