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    Anonymous
    My adopted daughter has been in therapy for the last 8 year about her sexually problems she always doing inappropriate thing around her brother and sister like pouring water down her breast in front of the 14 and 13 year old saying she can do what she wants its her body I can not leave her at home alone there is always a problem when i come back. She is 16 years old and the other ones are younger and I can not work because of her. She has NO respect for authority she told the therapist that she does 100% what she suppose to do at school and 0% at home. She does so much i really don't know what to do
    7/20/2014 6:21 pm Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Have you discussed her behavior with her therapist? He or she may have some suggestions. She may benefit from medication but that's a doctor's call. If she is breaking any laws, you could speak with a juvenile probation officer for suggestions about getting her back on track. Good luck.
    7/21/2014 11:12 am
    Anonymous
    My daughter had constantly been in trouble for the past 6 months. She has been lying, sneaking, stealing, kicked off the school bus 5 times this past school year, sent to the alternative school twice, and is now facing a possession of a controlled substance charge. She has NO respect for authority and is not afraid to admit it. Do not know what to do. I am recommending Juvenile Jail for her because I do not want her to end up in prison and I am hoping that may open her eyes. What other recommendations do you have?
    6/11/2014 2:16 pm Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Many juvenile courts across the country have probation officers assigned to speak with families in order to assist with family issues and keep the juvenile out of court. But since your daughter is facing charges, you'll have an opportunity to meet with a court officer to discuss the situation. Explain to them what's been going on and possibly she could benefit from a diversion program or other services provided by the court. Good luck.
    6/12/2014 5:51 pm
    Shannon Eckert
    Shannon Eckert
    I am the CASA(I am not a lawyer) for a 14 year old girl who has been on runaway status for at least a year. I am very frustrated. Here in New Mexico it is not illegal to run away. She was in the states custody for approximately 2 months and comes back into custody in order to access medical care. At this point she has been out of school for approximately 1 year. Is there anything in the law that would compel the state to ensure she is being educated. I believe she should be in a residential treatment facility where she can not run from, but there is no money to support this level of care. Any suggestion or information would be helpful. Shannon Ecekert
    5/31/2014 9:45 am Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Dear Shannon: First, thanks for your service as a CASA volunteer. New Mexico, like most states, have compulsory education laws that require school attendance between certain ages (six to sixteen, for example). However, if a minor is a runaway, there's little that can be done until he or she is in custody. Kids can't be locked up or sent to the department of corrections solely because they miss school. Not to mention, there are no "residential treatment" programs for runaways that are locked facilities. Thanks for asking. (This is information only - not legal advice).
    5/31/2014 5:02 pm
  • Anonymous
    My 18 year old son is a junior in the morgan hill unified school district. he has been cutting class or completely absent a whole day 2 out of 5 days a week. what are the legal consequences of this?
    5/21/2014 12:24 pm Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    First, we suggest you look at the school's Student Handbook to see what the truancy rules/policies are. They should be spelled out in the handbook. After so many unexcused absences, he may be facing consequences through the school such as detention or in school suspension (ISS). Then he may be referred to juvenile court. If he has to go to court, he may be placed in a diversion program and have to complete some community service and attend a class or counseling. Part of any diversion or probation would be regular school attendance. You can also contact the school's attendance counselor for more information. Thank you for writing us. (Check our Resource Directory for more help and resources in your area. This is information only – not legal advice.)
    5/22/2014 10:27 am
    Debbie Zager
    Anonymous
    Numerous posts on a site called YikYak caused a huge stir at my child's school. We were outraged at the postings (which were altered in subsequent blogs and articles)but were stunned to discover - days later that our child had been specifically named and in the disgusting statement made about her a minority group was also ridiculed (she is not part of that minority). I contacted the school who said there is no way to know who did it - and only way police can find out is if a physical threat was made ... then, maybe - the police could get a warrant and try to find writer of post and that YikYak might not even know...Really? The statement went viral, spoke to her committing many sexual acts with a group of (minority name omitted) boys... Is it true there is nothing to be done? IF the horrible kids who posted this (and other) posts specifically naming people - were themselves suddenly found their names bandied about the internet, the paper, the town... it might give pause to kids - in the future - and make them NOT do the same thing. In CT: what can be done?
    5/6/2014 6:08 am Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Dear Anon: We're very sorry to hear about your daughter's circumstances. It seems that apps like YikYak and others are allowing cyberbullying and other possible offenses to occur on a platform where users believe they are safe from facing consequences. However, that is not necessarily the case. First, the school should have an anti-bullying policy. Perhaps you could take your complaint to another school administrator or even the school board and they will take it more seriously. If not, you could go directly to the police as the students involved could be violating your state's cyberbullying or electronic harassment or another similar law. The police should be able to tell you if there is more that can be done at this time without necessarily getting a warrant or if they need more evidence to get a warrant. Click here to check out the cyberbullying laws in your state. It's very possible that something can be done at this time, so it's good that you are looking into it now. Good luck to you and your daughter. (Check our Resource Directory for more help and resources in your area. This is information only – not legal advice.)
    5/6/2014 10:02 am
    amie
    amie
    I have a 15 year old boy that keeps stealing from his parents.Can I call Newton Ks police?
    2/8/2014 12:40 pm Reply
    Judge Tom
    Judge Tom
    Yes, you can call the police and ask about the proper way to deal with this. Your local juvenile court may have a program for minor offenses that wouldn't necessarily involve formal criminal charges. Good luck.
    2/8/2014 10:55 pm
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