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    Could you stay off Facebook for $300 a month?

    Date: 10.20.10 | by Judge Tom.

    That’s what Melynda Rushing offered her 20-year-old daughter, Alyssa. It seems that Alyssa, a college student in North Carolina, spent three to four hours a day on Facebook. Her mother was concerned and wanted her to spend the time improving her grades. Alyssa accepted the offer and the Facebook fast began in mid-September, 2010.

    Interviewed after two weeks of her detox, Alyssa stated that “It was very hard. It was actually a lot harder the first couple of days. I didn’t know I was truly addicted.” Her roommates supported her ban and changed the password on her Facebook account. Toward the end of the first month, Alyssa commented that “It’s definitely made me see I could spend my time more wisely. Now that I see I can stay off it . . .I might not even go on every day.” One benefit she noted was that she turned in several class papers early.

    Alyssa and Melynda

    Alyssa and her Mom received both positive and negative feedback about this from the community. Some argue that it amounts to bribery and was not an incentive to do something positive. Others posted that Alyssa would truly appreciate her educational opportunities if she were paying for it herself.

    What do you think? By the time you’re in college should your parents pay more to get you to study? Shouldn’t that be up to you since it’s your future? What happens after the first month passes–should the offer be extended or end?

    Judge Tom

    This post was written by Judge Tom. Judge Tom is the founder and moderator of AsktheJudge.info. He is a retired juvenile judge and spent 23 years on the bench. He has written several books for lawyers and judges as well as teens and parents including the recently published 'Teen Cyberbullying Investigated' (Free Spirit Publishing). When he's not answering teens' questions, Judge Tom can be found hiking, traveling and reading.

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    • Askthejudge.info
      Wed, 20 Oct 2010 at 03:54

      Parent bribes daughter to kick the Facebook addiction – good or bad? http://fb.me/JkUjL576